The trophy girlfriend/trophy boyfriend and Insecurity issues !

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Insecure people do this.
This is a behavioral pattern that arises from longstanding insecurity that eventually transforms into a personality disorder.

Sometimes people want to choose the best of the best to have as a boyfriend/girlfriend.It is some kind of pacification technique they adapt to get rid of the many insecurities they have or the many inadequacies that they are aware of that exist in themselves.

They do this primarily not just because they appreciate the  positive qualities that this other person  has but as a way to prove to themselves  that they are obviously worthy enough for such a remarkable  person  to actually choose to be with them.

Sometimes, this method of self-assurance even extends to a point where they feel  this need for all their friends to approve of their girlfriend/boyfriend.So, seeking a mate essentially becomes a vanity exercise.They start choosing people they can show off to other people as in, "Look , look, look at them(him/her)..they are prettty, they are smart.. they are great in every given way and look look, they chose ME...so, obviously, I must be someone very special for them to choose me over everyone else" etc etc..The trophy girlfriend or trophy boyfriend scenario.
(Please note that "They" has been used instead of He or she in order to assume a gender neutral phrase)


Wanting to have a boyfriend or girlfriend who is fantastic in every given way is not a wrong thing at all. But wanting it as a way to improve your own self esteem vicariously is a stupid thing to do. Insecurities are the  burden of a lifetime and they just don't go away just because some fantastic person chooses(or makes the mistake to choose) to be with you. Insecurities are eliminated  only when you examine the real cause of your insecurity  very objectively without being biased and take positive steps to eliminate the mental and psychological cause behind that insecurity.

Only their plan matters

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The concept of honest 'Self appraisal'.Eliminating Insecurity from your own head!

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Regarding my self appraisal..I have noticed that many people are very
uncomfortable if a person is very aware of their own positives,for
eg.. if they think this person is very pretty , they somehow still
want the pretty person to have some kind of complex and have
insecurities..


 They are more comfortable if a very intelligent person
is not good looking.. etc etc..In short, they want everyone to be
unhappy and insecure in some way..


They get angry if someeone  is very
happy with everything they are..Which is why i often mention that i am
..because I am and it is possible to be..it is all in our hands.I also
do it repeatedly because i have a right to feel assured of myself.


I  cannot sit and feel obligated to pretend insecurity so that the
onlookers can feel nice. I am not vain, but i am confident..
Again, I have noticed that people deliberately try to break my
confidence because they just can't take it.


 My advice to such people
is,, well, see, this is my life, these are my thoughts, I am allowed
to feel proud of myself..if my pride bothers you, move on..The fact
that my pride bothers you only indicates that there is some insecurity
in your heart about your own self and You are angry that i have
managed to eliminate such insecurities.


Think about it