The trophy girlfriend/trophy boyfriend and Insecurity issues !

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Insecure people do this.
This is a behavioral pattern that arises from longstanding insecurity that eventually transforms into a personality disorder.

Sometimes people want to choose the best of the best to have as a boyfriend/girlfriend.It is some kind of pacification technique they adapt to get rid of the many insecurities they have or the many inadequacies that they are aware of that exist in themselves.

They do this primarily not just because they appreciate the  positive qualities that this other person  has but as a way to prove to themselves  that they are obviously worthy enough for such a remarkable  person  to actually choose to be with them.

Sometimes, this method of self-assurance even extends to a point where they feel  this need for all their friends to approve of their girlfriend/boyfriend.So, seeking a mate essentially becomes a vanity exercise.They start choosing people they can show off to other people as in, "Look , look, look at them(him/her)..they are prettty, they are smart.. they are great in every given way and look look, they chose ME...so, obviously, I must be someone very special for them to choose me over everyone else" etc etc..The trophy girlfriend or trophy boyfriend scenario.
(Please note that "They" has been used instead of He or she in order to assume a gender neutral phrase)


Wanting to have a boyfriend or girlfriend who is fantastic in every given way is not a wrong thing at all. But wanting it as a way to improve your own self esteem vicariously is a stupid thing to do. Insecurities are the  burden of a lifetime and they just don't go away just because some fantastic person chooses(or makes the mistake to choose) to be with you. Insecurities are eliminated  only when you examine the real cause of your insecurity  very objectively without being biased and take positive steps to eliminate the mental and psychological cause behind that insecurity.

Why don't stupid people stop having kids? what kind of question is that

"Why don't stupid people stop having kids?"
well !
First off, I came across this goal on 43things, where quite a few people had this goal to
STOP STUPID PEOPLE FROM HAVING KIDS
Needless to say, i went around reading the comments and such.
Finally ofcourse, I put in my two cents on here for everyone to read about this issue.
Now that i did this, I thought, i might as well come here and share my two cents with the blogger readers here
Here goes :
You know what, the lesser the person is capable of achieving anything in life, the more they are depressed and unsure of themselves.The more unsure they are of themselves, the more insecure they are.The more insecure they are , the more they will try to have people in their life who have no choice(with respect to being with them or leaving them ) and those who cannot abandon them.This is where kids figure.YOu see, kids cannot run away till they are 18.So, these stupid people are ensured validation each and every day for a period of 16 yrs or 18 yrs where other human constantly has to ask their permission to do things which kinda makes them feel important.That kinda makes them feel more worthy.This is exactly why , stupid people deliberately have more kids when infact they could do some service to the world and not have any.Having said that, sometimes, children that are born to such worthless people have undergone trauma due to stupid parenting for 16yrs , they tend to develop a completely opposite personality and might actually end up overachievers.You see, they know on a first hand basis how stupidity sucks.So, they try to go ahead try not to be stupid.