Procrastination and Family drama,genetics and the blame game

Jason writes a blog and each blog entry always evokes spontaneous comments from me.In fact, I mull over the blog content in my head for days and then go back and post further comments.
We have a beautiful commenters community there on his blog who all write in with their own personal views on the topic of the blog and reading the other comments also is such a fulfilling experience.
So yeah, this time jason wrote about procrastination and was taking about his grampa and pa and about how procrastination runs in the family and about soybean fields in the backyard and about the blame game we all play to get away with procrastination and such.
I left three comments for him there and I felt that these comments of mine qualify of blog entries.Here they are :
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My comments
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Le cinq blog said...

Okay, You gotta lay off the Pot. Seriously, You gotta do it.Cannabis is a mind altering drug. Please,stop using weed or pot!

Secondly,you look super sexy in that picture.

Thirdly,I got so tired of constantly coming over and checking if you wrote a new blog that I started procrastinating on my own blogging as well.

Hmmmmm.wow, You had soybean fields in your backyard? How do soybean fields look though.Any pics you can share? Being vegan now, soy gives me my iron and protein and what not.Would love to see pics of soybean fields.

Yeah, no use blaming planets or stars. Blaming anyone or anything is a sign of a loser. I blame a lot too when i lose out or don't fulfill my goals and i have learned that blame goes nowhere.

Wow, this blog was just plainly profound and scratched the surface of untouchable topics in my deeply buried psyche.

I think I am gonna repost this comment on my blog just to get me going and update all of my blogs which btw I haven't updated in the past 2 weeks.sheesh

In my opinion we all procrastinate as an escape from a painful place in our minds. As an escape from a lack of motivation. Ya know. or prolly lack of confidence.
Someone once sent me a note about how procrastination is all about perfectionism. Ya know, you keep postponing it coz you want to do a perfect job of it but then the pity part of it all is this perfect time never comes sometimes.
Anyways, jase, hugs to you ,blog more often will ya.Keeps me going.Even if it just airport pictures or silly touristy stories and such.
hmmmm...

April 26, 2009 5:05 PM

Le cinq blog said...

I just read the 80 comments above mine and atleast three kids are procrastinating on their exam preparation while reading this blog.LOL
But yeah, hundred percent of us commenters have also admitted that we are procrastinators as well. I think all humans are procrastinators.
Speaking of which, like everyone else said, you have been touring so much and all that travel by itself is such hardwork. So yes, You are not slacking at all.
either ways as much as i would love for you to blog alteast once a week, If you really feel like you are forcing yourself to blog, give yourself a break . You deserve it.You can always come back when you are refreshed. Yeah, please catch atleast 6hrs of sleep every 24hrs.
love and hugs

April 26, 2009 5:37 PM

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Le cinq blog said...

I feel ridiculous posting a third comment on this blog entry ,but then, after reading this blog , It kept replaying in my mind. Just had to come back and say some more.
First off ,see,this scene where your father is procrastinating at home and you skip school and roam around town and then both of you are pretending to each other that you were both doing what you both were supposed to be doing. Hmmmmm..That's tragic and well, procrastination can stem from mild to moderate depression.While it is foolish to blame your grampa and pa for passing on procrastination to you as if you mean procrastination is genetic, The blame still holds weight, since depression is genetic in some way, and procrastination can stem from depression.So there is a complex reason behind mass familial procrastination.Maybe your dad was depressed for not getting the opportunities in life he would have wanted.Maybe he was disappointed with himself which is why he was/is depressed and procrastinating thereof.Ya know. all hidden complex reasons.Maybe I am over analyzing your blog, but then even if this comment doesn't correctly apply to you I am sure someone of the comment readers might relate to it, which is why i take pains to post a looong comment.
The sweet side of your father though was that you took you to ever audition possible.Reminds me of my father. My father would never say no to anything related to my education.He would even to date buy any book i would like.He is sweet like that.
Anyways,
I just had to come back and babble about this coz, the lines in your blog kept repeating in my head like crazy.
No point blaming parents for anything , even if they were bad parents. But yes, having a great showdown and telling them all the things you didn't like about their parenting and getting it all out kinda relieves the soul.It gets all the animosity out there and clears the air.
It felt better when i sat both my parents down one day and screamed out things all emotionally charged at what all they could have done better with their parenting.Ofcourse, after that, couldn't sleep that whole night. The next thing in the morning,I kinda told sorry to both of them and all of us broke into tears. Hmmmmm.Then there was a group hug and some breakfast.
yeah, cannabis just creates more depression.It does.So,good to lay off of it.I say this as a well informed physician.Many of my patients who are hard drug addicts now say that they all started with soft drugs like alcohol or weed.It never stops at that.
Dealing with any kind of pain by actually analyzing it and coming to terms with it is better than blocking it out with weed or drugs.
Okay, I am done with my blabbing on this comments box.Geez, three comments. Sorry Ppl, just had to share.
I know jase reads all comments from top to bottom.So yes, hoping he will have patience with my over-commenting on this blog.
Gonna post this comment on my blog for my own records.
Also, YOUR MUSIC IS VERY VERY VIBRANT AND ORIGINAL AND THE MOST HAPPY MUSIC i have ever encountered.you have THE GIFT buddy, so let's rejoice at your talent.K?EAch time i listen to a song of yours, I will for sure pep up.
Your great creativity is your greatest gift to us and the world.Thank for the gift of your music.
I apologize to the other comment readers for posting such a long comment.
Group Hug everybody!
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Why do people hit kids ? My answer to Reader's Query

Well, Someone posted in a query asking 'WHY DO PEOPLE HIT KIDS?"
I am guessing they meant to ask why to people hit their own kids at home .
Well, for one People are a stressed out lot. They are stressed out about finances , about parenting responsibilities and about work problems , about their relationship or familial problems . People in general bottle up all stress and anger for days on end with no outlet anywhere. At this point of maximal frustration , a child seems to be the only point of least resistance. Children are small in size or dependant on your in many ways and are under your care.They look like an easy target and thus bear the brunt of frustrated parents who have no where else to vent their anger.
Child abuse is a punishable offence in the US and your children might get taken away if you try to use your children as a sounding board to vent out all your anger and frustration.

Other reasons why parents might hit their kids are
1/Physical violence is a way of silence the other person. By using physical violence when words are not able to control, the parents show their immense desire to control someone else no matter what it takes. Such parents might be control freaks trying to use the fact that they are physically bigger than the child as a tool to physically control someone else.

2/I previously wrote a blog entry called 'Hit the baby first and then pacify it' . Again, sometimes parents are so eager to brain washing the child to think that their parents are their only world that they sometimes first create trouble for the child first , just so that they can then be the pacifier. Such children end up developing a mental condition where they sympathize with their own abusers . Such parents first hit the child or scare the shit out of the child and then eventually come over at the end of it all and then pacify them like they are not at fault at all. After an episode of physical or mental creulty , any small good gesture from the abusers is viewed by the child as a reward and this gives rise to reoccurances of such vicious cycles of abuse followed by pacification.

3/ Munchusen's sydrome by proxy--This is a disorder where the parents inflict physical violence on the child and make it look like a disease just so that they can bring their child to the hospital .The main motive behind this is that the parents get a high from all the attention they get out of the doctors during this hospital visit.This is definitely child abuse and such parents need psychotherapy .

Having said all this, Physical violence is a definite NO NO , no matter who hurts whom. Physical violence is a sign of lack of anger control. It is a malicious attempt to silence another person or to show who is in control, when apparently any person who resorts to physical violence is infact out of control rather than being in control.

Everyone is born small and helpless , Children need to be fed and taken care of till they reach adulthood.This is nature and biology, Nothing can be done about it. As a parent it is your moral responsibility to take care of the human beings you brought into this world. You cannot expect fully grown human beings to be born from the womb. Using your bigger physical size against someone who cannot help being small (for a while till they grow up ) is a crime. Parents who hit their kids obviously have anger issues, psychological issues and stress issues. I hope this answers the reader's query. Feel free to send it more queries and i shall answer them as and when i get time.

Dogs are not children, Children are not dogs-Pets and selfishness

Well, This blog is about what makes me angry. This blog is also about psychology behind human behavior. This blog is also about tips to deal with anger.
Dogs and dogs, Children are children.
I get severely angry at people who have dogs because they want to be entertained or those that want to feel bigger and important and feel loved and in control and those that want someone begging them for food and someone that they can order around.
You know what, sometimes people have children for the above mentioned reasons. You know, sometimes people want to have children for the sole reason that they can have someone smaller than them that will need them for basic needs like food and clothing and thus they can go around ordering the kid to sit and stand and what not and sometimes people have kids so that they can feel like this bigger person in control and want to misle this constant need of their children as love .
In short, many immature people have either dogs or even kids for very selfish reasons, reason that satisfy them and them alone. Such parents are totally worthless .
In my opinion any animals doesn't deserve to be a pet. Every animal in the human kingdom that was naturally born will be able to fend for itself and even hunt for its own food. It is a natural instinct. No animal in this world is built in a way to be happy in an enclosure or to be chained or belted or to live in small spaces. Dogs run faster than a human, they are prefectly capable of going for your neck and killing you .So being a better hunter and a true carnivore they are perfectly above you in the food chain so to speak. I mean, You toilet train a dog or a cat coz you don't want your house dirty. But you know what, why must a dog in the wild, first go through the torture of living in stupidly small houses designed for humans and then on top of that need to get toilet trained at that? Why? They would not need toilet training if they were not forced to live in homes that are clearly designed for human purposes . Yeah, the horror of getting male dogs sterlized and female dogs splayed. What the hell is with that ? The horror of pet stores. seriously.
We try to have pets for our own selfish needs of loneliness where we want to feel not alone. The dogs don';t want it , the cats don't want , the fish don't want it..They are free human being. They run faster than we can. They can jump over walls in a jiffy. fish in the sea travel thousands of miles during breeding season. And yet the horror of first of all confining these animals in closed spaces and then teaching them tricks in exchange of food , VVery cruel. Look at it this way. You take a woman, put her in a room. feed her, then impregnate her against her will and then sell her female babies to someoneelse, who then again ties her up in a room and then feeds her regularly, and toilet trains her and such and then again, bargains tricks for food? how would that look? Huh?
Yeah, on the other hand, I have seen many a parent who force their kids to do this and this coz that is what they would like as a parent, Very cruel.They dress them a certain way . I have seen parent bring their 3 yr old girls to the swimming pool dressed in a two piece bikini, Seriously, This is a child. She is going to take another ten years before she gets boobs, so please stop dressing her in a bikini like that. Sometimes parents are so eager to show off their babies as eye candy to others. Ya know, teach them lil things to say or do which are suppossedly cute in the eyes of adults. No Madam, your child is not a dog.
Also, I mean, someone says, " I don't want children. I have my dogs." Gosh, to such people, first off, Children and dogs are not the same. Dogs belong in the wild. Children a symbol of love. Neither one of them is here to perform your tricks or act like trophies.
Thank you very much for reading this to the end. Most people don't like a mirror to their life.They like living in denial.

The wrong reason to want to be a parent

5/29/08 7:15 AM

Sometimes, i look at parents and it makes me mad.
They are so unfit to be parents.
To me, parenting is a noble job , a job of great honor and responsibility.
I find it silly when i see parents who just almost seem to enjoy ordering their kids around.They like to roll their eyes and stifle their tone and set rules for the children just coz it make them feel like they are a somebody with subordinates whom they can control and order around and the sad part is that these subordinates(unlike subordinates in a work situation) that they are bossing around are so tiny that they can't even quit their job and run away from this tyranny.
There are these other group of parents who just want a barbie doll..They like this daily chore of bathing and clothing this lil baby .These parents scare me the most.I mean, the barbie doll of their's is going to to grow up in a year or two and what then are they going to do then? People need to understand that children have their own personality, they deserve to be treated with respect too. And yeah, if you lie a lot in your daily life and then set hard and fast rules your children not to lie to you, trust me, they will end up liars just like you anyways.
CHILDREN LEARN BY EMULATION.SO, SET A GOOD EXAMPLE

The Trouble with NOT being an Average Jane !

5/12/08 2:11 AM

There is a lot of trouble that one faces for not being the Average Jane.
So much trouble, that it distresses me.

A not so good looking person would perhaps think each day that ," Hey !Had I been a lot more good looking than i am, I would have accomplished a lot more things easier !"

I go, Hmmmmm.....
A not so intelligent person would perhaps think each day in class or at work ," Hey ! Had I been more intelligent than i am , I would have had a much easier time than i am having right now !"

I go, Hmmm.......

Now ,Now..Ask me all about How much more difficult it is to be good looking and Intelligent and have it all easy.

In today's time, It appears that You are liked less if you are not as nasty as the next person.
In today's time, It appears that you are liked less if you are perhaps more good looking than the average person at work or in class or even at home.
In today's time, It appears that you are liked less if you are smarter than the rest of them there.

As a person who stands out(unfortunately for my own bad !) in the crowd and

As a person who works hard for what she strives to achieve,

As a person who has the talent to back up that hardwork,

As a person who believes in not being nasty and

As a person who won't bittttc h around ,

As a person who IS proud about the fact that i am blessed with a more than average I.Q,

IT WOULD BE NATURAL TO assume that i would have it easy in life.

Easy, My foot !

ON THE CONTRARY , I THINK that the very fact I am perhaps all of the above makes it more difficult for me.

The main reason for this would probably be because of the changes today's society has undergone.

The demorgraphic changes .Ya know !

A lot of 'non-productive-negative-bashing' takes places in every arena.There is no respect for real talent anymore.All because , the majority of the population had ended up being this lazy ass group of people with a lot of bottled up anger.

WHEN YOU BELONG TO THE 1% OF MINORITY OF HAPPY PEOPLE TRYING TO SURVIVE AMONGST THE REST OF THE RESENTFUL BITTER 99% ANGRY PEOPLE..NO MATTER HOW TALENTED OR GOOD LOOKING OR NICE OR NOT SO NASTY YOU ARE ,,YOU JUST CAN'T SURVIVE.WHY?

cOZ , MAJORITY RULES !

The majority of the population seems to be reeling under this wave of insecurity and nastiness compounded by such levels of mediocricity that when eventually a person who is more accomplished that them comes their way, That person ends up being harrassed and targeted and made to almost feel sorry for being better than them.The mediocre pieces of shite seem to be ruling the roost nowadays.

These less enterprising people must stop harrassing others who work hard to achieve what they do achieve and instead spend their energies on making themselves better to match up to these others that are nasty to.But instead of doing something productive, all they want is , for the more intelligent ones to be as sad and as nasty and as pathetic as themselves. All in an attempt to make themselves feel better about themselves.

Trust me , moaning and bitchhhhing and dirty politics and idle gossip and mudslinging is going to not make you feel better about yourself.You know you are nasty and that knowledge of that truth won't allow to make yourself feel better.

All i am disheartened now is about the fact that the majority now consists of pathetic losers(just had to use this term) -

THE PATHETIC LOSERS

Losers who have no real single person they can trust,

The majority of losers who are not trustworthy themselves,

The majority of losers who have no respect for someone else's talent,

The majority of losers who won't care to make themselves good enough ,

just good enough so that each time they see someone else who is capable and talented they won't feel insecure to such an extent that they will resort to dirty politics.

I am sick and tired of being singled out and targeted all coz the bitchhhh group feels insecure that they pale out in comparison ...

MORAL OF THE STORY ?
Killing the competition by unethical means won't cut it buddies(buddies? Blah !)

LIVE UP TO THE COMPETITION.

MAKE YOURSELF BETTER.

MAKE YOURSELF WORTHY.

Trash monsters feeding on trash magazines !

5/7/08 5:54 AM

Beware : This is an angry blog.None of the words below will be sugarcoated.If you are fan of unreal sugarcoated useless fluff, Please look away !



Having said that , I want to talk about the state of the media today.

When you go have a look at the local neighbourhood newstand or magazine rack at a book shop or supermarket, about 90% of the magazines neatly stacked up on there are trash.

What do i mean by trash?

Glorified gossip magazines.

And, to think that a lot of people are constantly purchasing these gossip magazines judging by numbers of the various magazines that the supermarket stocks , tells a lot about the psyche of the average reader.

The average magazine reader is looking for trash news.

What does that make the average magazine reader?

The would make the readers trash too.

YOU ARE WHAT YOU ASSIMILATE, and if you assimilate useless news about

'Who kissed whom' and

'who wore what' and

'who got newly pregnant' and

'whose house is bigger' ,

you really gain nothing.Nothing at all.

You are pushing your brain to a vegetative state without much stimulation in terms of innovativeness.



I mean, if A slept with B , How does that affect you at all?

In no particular way , unless A or B is actually sleeping with you too.

So, why exactly do you read such trash?Because you have nothing else to do ? Or , because you chose to do nothing else that is productive except try and learn who kissed whom.Gosh !

After much thinking, i finally came to the conclusion that it is all a vicious cycle.Teenagers are forcefed this trash news right from the time they can read and understand and they for the longest time concentrate on things that the trash magazine seems to project as important and end up doing nothing productive in life except try and emulate other high school dropouts who just happen to be in showbiz. Finally, this leads them to have no proper education and thus these teens end up very badly equipped to plan a decent life with productivity.This then makes them make stupid decision with regards to jobs and relationships. And finally they end up with such a shitty life that they seek solace by trying an escape route of getting lost in fantasy land by yet again reading those very trash magazines which were the cause of their ruin the first place.

I mean.. The only decent magazines that i see there on the magazine rack are READER'S DIGEST and TIME( Time is on it's way to trashiness too ) .

So, yeah..today's angry blog is about

HOW THERE IS A DEARTH OF FREE AVAILABILITY OF QUALITY MAGAZINES TO SUCH AN EXTENT THAT EVEN IF A CHILD WISHES TO EXPAND IT'S MENTAL HORIZONS, IT HAS TO LOOK HARD AND LONG TO FIND A DECENT MAGAZINE TO READ.Pisses me off bigtime.

Meanwhile, i don't care what some overpaid showbiz bimbo wears. I shall wear what i like and what suits me and what is comfortable. I want to be able to go the supermarket and pick from a variety of intelligentely written magazines that actually equip me to examine my life and improve it rather than those magazine that provide me an escape.

90% of Americans don't know how to manage their money(judging by their mortagages and credit card debts-shame on yourself) and 99% Americans are in focked up relationships ..If they dont' take the time to examine and make better their own lives, I have no idea , how much that is going to contribute to the dwindling of the human resource factor of the nation.

So, All the trash monsters, please stop reading those trash magazines, try and look at things that immediately concern you, LIKE , your education, your finances, your relationships, your garden, your self respect and dignity.

NUff said.

THE BRAIN IS A POWERFUL THING, PLEASE PUT IT TO USE. I BEG YOU .