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Sunday, May 3, 2009

Reader's question.Why do people gossip?

Alright, i actually prolly started off this blog way back last year, with answering this question.
Why do people gossip?
This question and the answer thereof is what made me name this blog is 
AN ANTIDOTE TO ANGER 
Anyways, I am gonna try and answer this question again since ofcourse looks like my readers don't go read my archives. Do feel free to browse my archives before sending in questions , k?I prolly have already answered that question in this blog or in one of my other four blogs which you can reach by looking at the blogroll section to the right of the page.


So yeah, 
WHY DO PEOPLE GOSSIP?
Mostly , people gossip coz they have a lot of free time on their hands and they are so bored out of their minds that they want to while away the time by indulging in some kind of conversation. And what better conversation than a convo about a third person who is not there to defend themselves, yeah? Most people sit and groups and talk about a third person who is not physically present there coz it is easier to gossip about a third person than about each other. Makes the convo quite tolerable without any conflict.
     sometimes people gossip while all they should be doing is their job at work. Ya know, those types that sit there on their work computers twittering away with strangers while they should actually be doing their job during that time. Why do people do that ? well, for one, they truly hate their job and are looking for some kind of distraction from that job that they hate so much. Secondly, prolly they don't know how to do their job, they are underqualified for their job to such an extent that attempting to do it intimidates them and therefore they resort to an immature coping mechanism to deal with job troubles by gossipping. In short, Gossiping can work as a distraction tool from hard to deal with situations. 
     Sometimes gossip can be used a deliberate tool to smear someone else's reputation.So, this kind of gossip is not the idle gossip kind but a well planned meticulously preconstructed convo which the person then pretend to rattle off as if they just are gossiping. A lot of namedropping, defamation etc takes places during the course of such gossips. Such gossips often take place at high profile gatherings, or fashion parties or idle worthless housewife parties etc. 
    Yeah, btw, sometimes extreme jealousy or insecurity can guide people to gossip about this other person whom they cannot fight out ethically or legally. In short, when you very well know that you are no match to this person in any given way, the resentment and insecurity is so intolerable that you see yourself going out of control in the gossip department and using gossip as a way to vent out your own insecurities. 
   In short, gossipping is a very non productive negative response to whatever life crisis you have. Surely, If you are too bored, go get a more productive hobby. Surely, If you don't like your job, go get a new job.Endless gossiping is not going to get your job done. Surely, if you are extremely jealous of someone else, examine why and try to make yourself better enough so that you don't feel insecure to the point of bitching..Ya know. think about it 





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Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Procrastination and Family drama,genetics and the blame game

Jason writes a blog and each blog entry always evokes spontaneous comments from me.In fact, I mull over the blog content in my head for days and then go back and post further comments.
We have a beautiful commenters community there on his blog who all write in with their own personal views on the topic of the blog and reading the other comments also is such a fulfilling experience.
So yeah, this time jason wrote about procrastination and was taking about his grampa and pa and about how procrastination runs in the family and about soybean fields in the backyard and about the blame game we all play to get away with procrastination and such.
I left three comments for him there and I felt that these comments of mine qualify of blog entries.Here they are :
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Blogger Le cinq blog said...

Okay, You gotta lay off the Pot. Seriously, You gotta do it.Cannabis is a mind altering drug. Please,stop using weed or pot!

Secondly,you look super sexy in that picture.

Thirdly,I got so tired of constantly coming over and checking if you wrote a new blog that I started procrastinating on my own blogging as well.

Hmmmmm.wow, You had soybean fields in your backyard? How do soybean fields look though.Any pics you can share? Being vegan now, soy gives me my iron and protein and what not.Would love to see pics of soybean fields.

Yeah, no use blaming planets or stars. Blaming anyone or anything is a sign of a loser. I blame a lot too when i lose out or don't fulfill my goals and i have learned that blame goes nowhere.

Wow, this blog was just plainly profound and scratched the surface of untouchable topics in my deeply buried psyche.

I think I am gonna repost this comment on my blog just to get me going and update all of my blogs which btw I haven't updated in the past 2 weeks.sheesh

In my opinion we all procrastinate as an escape from a painful place in our minds. As an escape from a lack of motivation. Ya know. or prolly lack of confidence.
Someone once sent me a note about how procrastination is all about perfectionism. Ya know, you keep postponing it coz you want to do a perfect job of it but then the pity part of it all is this perfect time never comes sometimes.
Anyways, jase, hugs to you ,blog more often will ya.Keeps me going.Even if it just airport pictures or silly touristy stories and such.
hmmmm...

April 26, 2009 5:05 PM

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Blogger Le cinq blog said...

I just read the 80 comments above mine and atleast three kids are procrastinating on their exam preparation while reading this blog.LOL
But yeah, hundred percent of us commenters have also admitted that we are procrastinators as well. I think all humans are procrastinators.
Speaking of which, like everyone else said, you have been touring so much and all that travel by itself is such hardwork. So yes, You are not slacking at all.
either ways as much as i would love for you to blog alteast once a week, If you really feel like you are forcing yourself to blog, give yourself a break . You deserve it.You can always come back when you are refreshed. Yeah, please catch atleast 6hrs of sleep every 24hrs.
love and hugs

April 26, 2009 5:37 PM

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Blogger Le cinq blog said...

I feel ridiculous posting a third comment on this blog entry ,but then, after reading this blog , It kept replaying in my mind. Just had to come back and say some more.
First off ,see,this scene where your father is procrastinating at home and you skip school and roam around town and then both of you are pretending to each other that you were both doing what you both were supposed to be doing. Hmmmmm..That's tragic and well, procrastination can stem from mild to moderate depression.While it is foolish to blame your grampa and pa for passing on procrastination to you as if you mean procrastination is genetic, The blame still holds weight, since depression is genetic in some way, and procrastination can stem from depression.So there is a complex reason behind mass familial procrastination.Maybe your dad was depressed for not getting the opportunities in life he would have wanted.Maybe he was disappointed with himself which is why he was/is depressed and procrastinating thereof.Ya know. all hidden complex reasons.Maybe I am over analyzing your blog, but then even if this comment doesn't correctly apply to you I am sure someone of the comment readers might relate to it, which is why i take pains to post a looong comment.
The sweet side of your father though was that you took you to ever audition possible.Reminds me of my father. My father would never say no to anything related to my education.He would even to date buy any book i would like.He is sweet like that.
Anyways,
I just had to come back and babble about this coz, the lines in your blog kept repeating in my head like crazy.
No point blaming parents for anything , even if they were bad parents. But yes, having a great showdown and telling them all the things you didn't like about their parenting and getting it all out kinda relieves the soul.It gets all the animosity out there and clears the air.
It felt better when i sat both my parents down one day and screamed out things all emotionally charged at what all they could have done better with their parenting.Ofcourse, after that, couldn't sleep that whole night. The next thing in the morning,I kinda told sorry to both of them and all of us broke into tears. Hmmmmm.Then there was a group hug and some breakfast.
yeah, cannabis just creates more depression.It does.So,good to lay off of it.I say this as a well informed physician.Many of my patients who are hard drug addicts now say that they all started with soft drugs like alcohol or weed.It never stops at that.
Dealing with any kind of pain by actually analyzing it and coming to terms with it is better than blocking it out with weed or drugs.
Okay, I am done with my blabbing on this comments box.Geez, three comments. Sorry Ppl, just had to share.
I know jase reads all comments from top to bottom.So yes, hoping he will have patience with my over-commenting on this blog.
Gonna post this comment on my blog for my own records.
Also, YOUR MUSIC IS VERY VERY VIBRANT AND ORIGINAL AND THE MOST HAPPY MUSIC i have ever encountered.you have THE GIFT buddy, so let's rejoice at your talent.K?EAch time i listen to a song of yours, I will for sure pep up.
Your great creativity is your greatest gift to us and the world.Thank for the gift of your music.
I apologize to the other comment readers for posting such a long comment.
Group Hug everybody!
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