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Friday, March 5, 2010

The 2009 Round up blog in piece meal-Does 'Not judging' reduce anger?

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2009 taught me that everyone is fallible, even me.
I have a high ethical standpoint. That explains why I am vegan or why i fight for human rights etc etc.
I also used to have these rigid rules about fidelity.. as in.....
You can love only one single person at a given time.
If you love someone too much, you will never ever cheat on them,
People of different age groups shouldn't date each other etc etc..
Some of these beliefs have undergone a great overhaul in my head as of now.
I realize that i am becoming more open minded just like my mother. She always tells me to be open and accepting of other people's mistakes..I guess she says that coz she messes up from time to time and knows first hand about how people end up messing up.So, her way of forgiving herself is by forgiving others who make mistakes as well.
Me on the other hand self regulate a lot..I am my own critic..So, i vindicate myself a lot.When so much of self control goes on ,,you end up making less mistakes and when you do so much of hard work trying not to make mistakes you expect others to be as responsible as well.
But the real word is not like that..Though you are responsible, you will come across a lot of irresponsible people. You have to not let their irresponsibility affect your state of mind .yeah?
So,That is what i learned this year.Though I still plan to self control and self regulate, i will atleast be less critical of other messer-uppers in 2010.

So, though in 2008, I would  have disapprove when a 40 something Brad pitt would diss his wife of 7 years and run to be with a 29 year old Angeline jolie and  though Angelina jolie herself having been a victim of her own father cheating on her own mother now suddenly takes this 40 year old man into her arms , a man who is literally cheating on his wife..(Note:that i am a third party bystander..none of my business...ya know)
In 2009, I am more accepting or rather LESS CRITICAL  of everyone and everything coz ya know what.. unless you are them, you will never know why they did what they did.. I have become less judging of people...So, if something like that triangle happened in 2010..i would care less.Who cares..if they are all messing it is their problem.ya know!
     Why am i so accepting now? I realized something new in 2009.
   Though we self regulate our own behavior..we cannot control so many things outside of our life.
   Because,, LIFE IS ALL ABOUT VARIABLES.. It is a set of variables thrown together in each person's life.. and you with your set of variables will behave and react differently to a set of situations than say what another person with another set of variables will to the same circumstances.

So, yes, I am becoming more open minded like my mother.. She never judges.. as in,,she is more accepting of her own mistakes and others mistakes..
I on the other hand used to be too critical of my own mistakes and others' mistakes as well.
But now.. though i will continue to set high standards for everyone,, i will not judge as often when mistakes happen , coz,, who am I to judge? yeah?

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