The pervs who stare down at you at the beach or swimming pool

Please note that this particular blog entry has also been simulaneously posted at my'ramble blog'.You can read my other blogs from the blogroll.
Here goes the blog:


When i say pervs..I mean all those men , middle aged or not-so-middle aged but with girlfriends or with wives at home, yet , who come down to the beach and stare down at other women, young and not so young but hotbodied..Seriously, it is so annoying. It is bad manners to stare at someone with the drool dripping out like that..seriously !Come on.
Why am i writing a blog entry about letchers? And more importantly, why am i writing this blog entry here in the 'Ramble blog' rather than at my 'Antidote to anger blog'?Speaking of which, maybe i must post a copy of this blog at that blog too for the benefit of the readers of that blog, who btw are so used to my anger filled blogs, this might come across as rosy and very mild to them..LOL.Coming back to the topic on hand, :
Well, from what i notice, this blog has farther reach than my antidote to anger blog and i want to talk and let the letchers understand that it is not cool to lustfully stare down a woman esp if she is far too younger for you in the first place to even make any romantic advances towards, or if you are already married or in a relationship and should not actually be staring down other women in the first place.Even if you were single and hot and the same age as the woman you are staring down at or letcher, either at the beach or the swimming pool, I would have to still insist that staring down at someone's body is not really cool at all.It is creepy.
I have a great body but i don't find it flattering at all , if someone stares down my body .My body may be great and beautiful but please, please, don't letcher at me with that creepy lustful stare that is measuring me up and finally ends with a semi masturbatory expression on your face.Seriously, get a grip..
The funny part is, though it is not as painful when the other person checking you out is a young guy who is single and has a great body, it still is indecent in some way if the kind of stare is this, "let me see , how big are your boobs" or.. "good, this butt is squeezable" and such..Funny thing is,, if you catch them staring at you, they smile back at you with a pathetic cocky smirk...seriously,,that is such a put off.
Staring down the body of someone else, with a lustful expression is rude and indicative of sexual frustration..Checking someone out for a brief second or a good 5 seconds is okay.AFter all , all of us are young and are perhaps looking for someone who we may want to have a chemistry with, but then staring anyone down or checking them out more than 5 seconds and more so giving them a evil smirk after doing so , is a definite NO-NO. staring at boobs or butt or the crotch area in specific is a definite put off and akin to violation.
There just might be a possiblity that some young hot bodied women(aka me-not trying to boast,just giving an example) might just be coming to the swimming pool to get a work out.They probably are not looking to be stared down by creepy potbellied married men or for that matter they prolly don't want to be letchered at by anyone irrespective of the fact as to whether the men are hot themselves...
Staring down or letchering at someone is not cool,period !
There is a lot of difference between checking someone out and lustfully letchering at someone.
Stick to a brief 5 second stare if at all you have to stare, and if you are single and ready to mingle and if you know for sure that the other person is ready to mingle, then perhaps , you could politely introduce yourself outside of the pool and take it from there.Don't behave like a sexually frustrated cocky bastard.Please !

Why do people gossip?

well ! because for one , it so satisfying for them to sit there and judge other people, it feels better to be the one judging that being the one to be judging and what better way to do that than gossip about them behind the back.After all, if you talk to them to their face, half of the gossip talk will turn out to be false..so, yeah, gossiping behind someone's back is the best way . Isn't it?
I really stay away from gossipping coz idle talk gives me a headache.Unfortunately for me, a lot of others don't .
I think people gossip when they don't have topics of conversation .They are like, Hey, Hello and then decide that gossiping about a third person instead of about each other is the best way to pass off some time.
Meanwhile, gossipping is another technique for revenge and spreading rumors too esp if the third person you are talking about is better than you and not part of the conversation.Makes it easy to say an shite you want and no one is there to defend themselves .
Gossiping also comes from insecurity or jealousy.
Finally, yes gossiping comes out of idleness.
Inshort, people need to start doing productive things rather than sit around and gossip.Seriously, come on, get something productive to do so that you can feel better about yourself .hmmmm.That way you can pass of the time doing good things and at the same time also feed good enough about yourself that you won't need to resort to gossipping to put someone else down inorder to feel good about yourself.

What is wrong with the concept of "Gender appropriate toys"

Peggy recently blogged about how even the limited edition 'Space barbie' though is supposed to be an astronaut barbie, has so much make up on , it is hideous..And , I completely agree, much as i agree to most of what peggy blogs about.You can read more of her blogs by following the link to her Women in Science blog on my blogroll.
Meanwhile, i will just post a quote of the comment I myself made on there.
Here goes my comment.
Start of quote:
"Hey peggy, thanks a ton for posting blogs that i myself would have liked to talk or blog about but haven't had the time to do so.
Yeah.. well ! My dad bought me a set of 'blocks' when i was a kid,the ones you use to construct different things.I wonder if they categorize 'blocks' as boys toys at the toy store.If they do,then the toy company needs to be sued for false propoganda of gender preferences.Me and my sis both were girls and we loved blocks very much..Thanks to dad for buying us sensible toys.BTw..I am a doctor now..a female doctor, and my sister is an engineer..a female engineer and well! pink is not the fav color of either of us.(Not that i discriminate against pink).I like earthy colors and i like bike rides and i really don't like makeup..I vote for unisex toys..Toys don't need to be gender categorized at all.Infact , i find the word 'Tomboy' stupid.Women who don't play with barbies are called tomboys..why? Anyone can like cars and anyone can like barbies,they don't need to be abnormal for liking things that are not what they are expected to like.. The concept of 'Gender appropriate toys' is to be done with.I want to ask , "Is is inappropriate for a girl to play with toy cars?" If so , why?Unisex toys is the way to go.Infact, parents must take their kids to the toystore and allow them to pick whatever they want.If boys pick a barbie so be it,it is just that the boy likes to play with human figures.If a girl picks cars, well it is just that the girl likes cars.Ya know.
Btw, did you hear about this russian sexual harrasment court case where the judge actually told the woman that it is right of the bosses to make sexual advances to the women employees..I actually blogged about it in my 'An Antidote to anger' blog..Or perhaps my 'Not so Daily Ramble blog', I forget which one though.
Also,I am gonna repost this comment on one of my blogs too ,just so that my readers get to read my views on this issue too.Many hugs and take care"END OF QUOTE

Russian women and sexual harrassment case in russia

Seriously, this news report just made me open my mouth and say ,"NO! He didnt say that !"
I mean, this russian lady, filed a sexual harrassment case in russia and asked for her boss to be convicted and then arrested or sentenced coz he kept making sexual advances at her and in very clear words asked her to have sex with her or else she either loses her job or never makes progress in her career.
Now, the sexual advances are proven too..
Now, what does the judge decide?
He actually decides in favor of the boss...why? NOt because he found the accusations baseless.But primarily because he thinks that it is normal and expected of women to sleep with their bosses if they at all desire to get a promotion.He actually condones the ass grabing and sexual relations that bosses force upon the women ..It is almost like he said, "you better sleep with him when he wants you to ,or else, come on, how else are you going to keep your job?"
MY QUESTION IS , "what kind of a judge is this?"
Is russian law literally the mafia law?
What the fockers is he saying?
And how exactly is he getting away with officially saying these things?
What the fockers?
What the hell?
gosh !..at this rate..there is going to be no 'antidote to anger' at all..
What the hell?
Seriously?
p.s:I am still trying to find a link to this news article so that i can post it here.
I shall post it as soon as i find the link,k?Meanwhile do google this case , will ya?

How not to be angry?

I get angry with a lot of people around.Whom does that affect>?That anger ,,just the anger ! well..If i don't express to the person that they are causing me the anger, then the anger is most likely going to affect me in a negative manner.
I figured out how to not be angry..I could even before the anger reaches the brim, start expressing my displeasure to this person that is causing the anger.
Well! That is only possible if a specific person is causing me specific displeasure.What if i am getting angry at the shallowness and stupidity of people on TV ..what is the solution..Either write a blog about it or write to the tv producers and if any of that is not possible..be smart enough to not let all of that affect me..I guess that last mentioned method is the method most people adopt to be so desensitized with things that they can go by each day without getting angry or affected by anything unless it is directly affecting them in some way.They don't care if someone litters the place, they don't care if illegals start gang bangings groups in the US, they don't care if people are getting stupider by the day in the US, they don't care if all that is there on TV is some trash gossip about some stupid actors in the entertainment industry.
Gosh ! Why do i care so much?LOL

some women just encourage their family members to victimize them

well, the thing is, sometimes some women gently encourage their family members to act selfish, just so that they can pass off as a martyr..I think this tendency to slowly and slyly encourage them to behave like monsters so that they can then go ahead and pose as this hapless victim that does things for everyone at home, stems from a deep sense of insecurity and malicious thought process there of, where they see themselves completely incapable of winning love unless they play these games.It also stems from lack of self confidence where they think that they really are not capable of doing anything on their own and yet and therefore have to decided to devise methods where they can 'fool' other people to think they are useful in some way.I use the world fool here not because i think they are fooling people..i use the word fool coz they think they are fooling other people into believing they are useful in someway coz they themselves have started viewing themselves are useless .
A good sign of self loathing where in their heart of hearts they feel that unless they victimize themselves or play the victim, there just is going to be no possibility that anyone will value them ever.They dread a scenario where no one is the victim and yet they are indispensible.they view themselves as dispensible which is exactly why they try to create a situation where they want to pose as someone who is giving up a lot of self dignity to make the relationship to survive.
this is a pathetic plan.they need to respect themselves enough and make themselves worthy enough to still be needed even if there is no victimization involved at all.
I mean after all, people can just like another person just because of the way they are not and not because of the things this person does for them..Ya know...To actually imagine that unless you create sceanarios where you prove that you are abused and yet decide to be the jesus christ of the relationship where you let yourself get abused and such, only indicates a lot of self loathing that you have for yourself where you think that unless you are the jesus christ of the relationship no one will want to be around you.
Come on,have a life, do things you want to do..don't depend on other people .You life should not depend on someone else going on a guilt trip.
Do things that make you feel independent and self worthy.You should have choices and be proud of things that you do on your own .That way you don't need to depend on someone else's good books.That paves the way for non guilt trip dependant relationships where mutual respect and real camaraderie is what survives the relationship.