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Thursday, December 24, 2009

The concept of "People shopping" while you are still in an old relationship

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I am a 30 year old qualified physician and hence am equipped to write relationship advice. Please email me if you have questions of your own that you want me to write another blog entry about.k?My email is on my profile page.

If something doesn't work out..don't wait till someone better comes along
If a relationship doesn't work for you or you feel  the need to interact with someone else for emotional purposes, then just break up with whoever you are with and are having routine convenient sex with.
YES, you might end up alone, high and dry without all the convenient sex and all, but atleast you are not living in a fake relationship.

I see a lot of people who just continue to say yes to a very semi compatible relationship --just for temporary purposes coz it is so comfortable and  convenient to have someone you can have regular sex with or go out with on weekends. They do that coz they are afraid to be alone. They make such half ass choices out of greed and out of fear of loneliness
Honestly? You should be so much at peace with yourself that you should not be afraid to be lonely.

Also, quickly dropping a current partner, once you come across someone new who seems more compatible is unethical.. ya know.. coz it like you used your old partner till as long as you needed them. and then you drop them.. coz you found something better..Had you dropped them just coz you were not compatible, on your own, without a luring carrot dangling from the stick, that is a whole other story..But if you did that coz you found something better to pursue , it is like use and throw of the old partner

Yes, when you find yourself in a situation where while still in a relationship you start finding someone new much more compatible,
you MUST  break up with your old person.
NOT so that you can rush into the arms of the new person.
BUT, because the old relationship obviously was not right for you.

After you break up with the old person..
b/Be alone.
c/See how you feel without the old person but without the new person either to immediately pacify you. never know..had you not met the new person, you might possibly would have continued to be with this old person..

d/If there were no new person to pacify you.. that is the real test to see ,,how courageous and true to your emotions you are..

e/And yes,, if you feel the need to go back to this old person once you find out that the new person won't quickly run to you and pacify you,,,that is when you know that you are just  a person who is afraid to be alone and will be with anyone who stays with you.

F/what then? Pause, take a deep breath..think, write down stuff. analyze then 

hmmmm..SELF DISCOVERY ensues!

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