Dancing as Anger therapy

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I am a physician by profession .But I love Dancing..I am not a trained dancer.As a matter of fact, I don't think anyone needs to really be trained in DANCE..If you have it in you, you really can and will dance well on your own .Yes, great rhythmic music does help you going/get you started...

I like all styles of dancing..I just like dancing.It helps me unwind..I helps me get charged up ,,It just helps me relax and go into the happy zone..
Sometimes it is the reverse..When i am really really happy already,,I go into a dancing spree..Works both ways you see!


Though for most part, Dance per say is not an EXCLUSIVE SOLUTION to anger.. But yes, it can help as a temporary aid to put off anger for later analysis..Like, a TEMPORARY RESPITE.
Like I always insist on this blog, Anger has a CAUSE..
And it helps to get to the bottom of it..
find out every single thing there is to this issue that is causing you anguish..
think objectively and then find a solution..

But then, the above mentioned FOUR STEP ANGER ELIMINATION STRATEGY that i propound might be time consuming and might depend on the information that is available to you.Most often many facts and issues are not on the forefront and we don't often notice them until much later and till you reach that point of actually seeing the real issue, we MAY NOT be able to come to a logical closure to that anger..So, DANCE walks in to the rescue in such situations.. for a way to temporarily put off those surges of anger that come up and you don't know why you are so angry .


HOW DOES DANCE WORK TO ELIMINATE OR SUPPRESS ANGER?
Dance is a form of exercise.Infact, sex is a form of exercise too..And any form of exercise will start acting as a MENTAL DIVERSION.. helps us focus on the body and not on the mind.. Any distraction instantly gives respite to the brain,
Also, any form of exercise will cause all the positive chemicals in the body (what are positive chemicals?.I shall take time and post about these in my other blog, ECOLOGY AND HEALTH BLOG at a later point of time, not inside the scope of this blog entry, k?)

So, well, The next time you are very angry and you are not in a position to completely analyze and bring a solution to eliminate it just yet..and  You seek a temporary solution to put off the anger surge..JUST GO AHEAD AND DANCE WILL YA?

The 2009 Round up blog in piece meal-Does 'Not judging' reduce anger?

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2009 taught me that everyone is fallible, even me.
I have a high ethical standpoint. That explains why I am vegan or why i fight for human rights etc etc.
I also used to have these rigid rules about fidelity.. as in.....
You can love only one single person at a given time.
If you love someone too much, you will never ever cheat on them,
People of different age groups shouldn't date each other etc etc..
Some of these beliefs have undergone a great overhaul in my head as of now.
I realize that i am becoming more open minded just like my mother. She always tells me to be open and accepting of other people's mistakes..I guess she says that coz she messes up from time to time and knows first hand about how people end up messing up.So, her way of forgiving herself is by forgiving others who make mistakes as well.
Me on the other hand self regulate a lot..I am my own critic..So, i vindicate myself a lot.When so much of self control goes on ,,you end up making less mistakes and when you do so much of hard work trying not to make mistakes you expect others to be as responsible as well.
But the real word is not like that..Though you are responsible, you will come across a lot of irresponsible people. You have to not let their irresponsibility affect your state of mind .yeah?
So,That is what i learned this year.Though I still plan to self control and self regulate, i will atleast be less critical of other messer-uppers in 2010.

So, though in 2008, I would  have disapprove when a 40 something Brad pitt would diss his wife of 7 years and run to be with a 29 year old Angeline jolie and  though Angelina jolie herself having been a victim of her own father cheating on her own mother now suddenly takes this 40 year old man into her arms , a man who is literally cheating on his wife..(Note:that i am a third party bystander..none of my business...ya know)
In 2009, I am more accepting or rather LESS CRITICAL  of everyone and everything coz ya know what.. unless you are them, you will never know why they did what they did.. I have become less judging of people...So, if something like that triangle happened in 2010..i would care less.Who cares..if they are all messing it up..it is their problem.ya know!
     Why am i so accepting now? I realized something new in 2009.
   Though we self regulate our own behavior..we cannot control so many things outside of our life.
   Because,, LIFE IS ALL ABOUT VARIABLES.. It is a set of variables thrown together in each person's life.. and you with your set of variables will behave and react differently to a set of situations than say what another person with another set of variables will to the same circumstances.

So, yes, I am becoming more open minded like my mother.. She never judges.. as in,,she is more accepting of her own mistakes and others mistakes..
I on the other hand used to be too critical of my own mistakes and others' mistakes as well.
But now.. though i will continue to set high standards for everyone,, i will not judge as often when mistakes happen , coz,, who am I to judge? yeah?