About kicking the dog and passing the buck of abuse to someone else-exploring domestic abuse-PART 1

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LET US START WITH

"KICKING THE DOG" SYNDROME!

First of all,dogs are adult animals of another species.

THEY ARE ADULTS.they don't require TAKING CARE OF unless you deliberately create limiting situations for them to a point where you then need to "help" then and "take"care of them.

More about pets and companion animals in my "ecology and health blog" (look it up at the top of this page),where I WILL EXTENSIVELY deal with this topic.

Here I am just using this phrase "kicking the dog" as an ANALOGY to explain human tendencies in terms of TRANSFERING ANGER ONTO HELPLESS SUBJECTS who have no role in causing them that anger.

You often see severely abused children ,who feel powerless in size and otherwise compared to their big sized adult parents whom they depend on for food and shelter,often look at the DOG OF THE FAMILY as lower than them and thus as a target.
Everytime they are subjected to abuse,they go and kick the dog,because the dog looks like an easy target.and it is human tendency to find a way to empty the anger we evoke in ourselves.

Just for once, let us think of this scenario where the adult dog with its sharp canines decides to stop being the 'LOYAL'  PET and decides to retaliate to everyone who kicks it,then surely the kid will learn never to repeat that kind of behavior..Because, then,the kid starts to see the dog not as an easy target but as a powerful animal capable to biting you back.

So,in short, MOST PEOPLE WON'T DARE PHYSICALLY ATTACK someone whom THEY ARE SURE WILL GIVE THEM BACK IN GOOD MEASURE!

Again,that is another seperate concept in psychiatry and will be discussed in another blog entry.

IN SHORT,

No person will go and try kicking and beating up

a/ a large giant who will crush you physicially

b/someone who is in a position of power and

c/someone who is viewed as having the capacity to retaliate.


For now,let us just MOVE on to the NEXT TOPIC on hand and talk about TRANSFER OF ANGER TO HAPLESS TARGETS.
I will also briefly discuss domestic abuse in this context.

DOMESTIC ABUSE

Most cases of domestic abuse happen because the victim is VIEWED either subconciously or consciously BY THE ABUSER as a weak and easy target,someone who cannot or will not retaliate .

Sometimes,domestic abuse is portrayed as some kind of action done in thoughtless rage and is tagged as something done is utter anger without PREMEDITATION.
THAT IS NOT TRUE.
It is very much PRE-MEDITATED on a subconscious level...sometimes ,even the abuser hasn't realized it...but their action sequence proves it.

a/What domestic abuse often times IS, is  a TRANSFER OF ANGER that has been bottled up from other sources outside of the immediate person who the abuser is inflicting domestic abuse on..

b/yes,sometimes,it is also the very person who the abuser is beating up at home mercilessly,who has caused the abuser to bottle up a lot of subliminal emotional abuse  on a long term basis,till one day the soon to be domestic abuser stops being the nice person or victim of cleverly constructed familial emotional abuses and retaliates in MONSTEROUS  physical WAYS!

Both emotional abuse and physical abuse are equally damaging and equally non-productive and well,they are BOTH ABUSIVE PATTERNS and need to be done away with.


Again,by mentioning the above two reasons or causes of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, I AM NOT justifying domestic abuse.there is NO JUSTIFICATION FOR HARMING A FELLOW HUMAN BEING.ever!

I am only exploring the right causes,so that we can then proceed to prescribe apt solutions..solutions that will actually work to curb the rampant familial domestic violence that we get to see in our societies all over the world!

When you see the statistics,So many cases of  reported or unrepoted domestic abuse seem to be happening on women!
why?
because society teaches us that women are biologically weaker..

The truth of the matter is,
WOMEN ARE BIOLOGICALLY STRONGER...

a/THEIR LEGS AND ARMS ARE STRONGER,

b/they are physiologically capable of undergoing mindboggling physiological changes over nine months of pregnancy,tear their vagina to give birth to kids,convert their own body fat to make breast milk and YET NOT BLINK ANY EYE and get ready to do it all over again and again, till they exhaust their ovaries over a lifetime which I HOPE is richer by things they do other than just breeding..

c/They have enough body reserves in their body by virtue of their body make up to survive longer periods of food shortage and thus in terms of survival capacity too ,they beat men !



I AM A 35 YEAR OF FEMALE PHYSICIAN and I INSIST,

women are biologically designed by nature to be STRONGER AND TOUGHER IN THE BODY AND MIND..coz they have a very tough job designed for them to partake of biologically!

women are both BIOLOGICALLY STRONGER AND BIOLOGICALLY SUPERIOR because they contribute more genetic material to the fetus and also have more genetic material in each cell of their own body because they need those extra genes to perform extra biological functions that men CAN'T PERFORM even if they want to..

But then,chauninistic religions instituted around 2000 years ago,WERE DESIGNED SCHEMATICALLY to steal the superior position of women by DRILLING CHAUVINISTIC ILLOGICAL SENSELESS IDEAS INTO SOCIETY AFTER SOCIETY ,till a point has come in human history,where most socieities all over the world now FOLLOW THAT ILLOGICAL CHAUVINISTIC PRACTICE OF SOCIALLY AND SCHEMATICALLY MAKING GIRLS AND WOMEN POWERLESS right from birth to death.

These chauvinistic religions also teach everyone that women are somehow the weaker sex...WHAT THE f***?

I took so long to explain this historical context of the weaker sex and stronger sex because,WE ARE WHAT WE BELIEVE..

If male kids are made to believe that they are stronger than female kids, they believe it and THEY ACT UPON THAT FALSE BELIEF.

The belief may not be accurate,but since they believe it is true, they act upon it..and once they act upon inflicting PHYSICAL DAMAGE TO A FELLOW HUMAN BEING,,the violation is DONE..
THE DIRTY DEED OF DAMAGE IS DONE...

What I am trying to say here is,,a man goes around taking a lot of shit from fellow men all day..and he DOESN'T RETALIATE,because he is SOCIALLY TAUGHT TO VIEW THEM AS STRONG AND EQUAL, and once you view someone as strong and equal or even stronger than you,THEN you don't ATTEMPT TO ATTACK THEM...and
yOU ONLY ATTACK SOMEONE whom you THINK, you can control and beat!

Most men are  just as physically weak as their fellow women of equal height and weight..

Infact, on a experiment  was conducted by a SCIENCE mag tv channel to find out who had the strongest boxing punch.
A FEMALE MANAGED TO PROVE SCIENTIFICALLY THAT SHE HAD the strongest punch in comparison to a man of corresponding weight and height and it was simultaneously discovered that the FORCE OF A PUNCH has got to do much with technique more than anything and also the pressure that is applied per square area where pressure is attempted to be applied.

As far as I know, none of the men are super men..if they get beaten up by another man,they get injured too just like a woman might get injured.
If two men beat up one man ,that single person is surely gonna take a beating,just like a single women getting attacked by multiple humans might...
So,women being the weaker sex is just a CLEVERLY PLANTED PROPOGANDA by the chauvinistic religions in at attempt to grab power

Here I am also simultaneously trying to cover the sociological aspects of domestic violence while trying to explain the core anger principles behind it.

Again,coming back to  physical abuse versus emotional abuse in domestic violence...
Maybe,I will deal with that in another blog entry,coz ,this one has already gotten just too long.

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