Just have no time to get angry!

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NOT LETTING THE ANGER BE FELT
Sometimes it helps to be so super busy,so much so  that, there is no time for emotions to sprout up.
I am not sure if this is a LONG TERM SOLUTION though, because , when people don't end up having time to FEEL ANGRY about things that bother them on a day to day basis, though the anger will not outwardly manifests itself and in that process of being dormant it NUMBS you into believing that you NEVER GET ANGRY ...The anger does bottle up somewhere deep and then ONE FINE DAY..it bursts out.

Having said that ,the best SHORT TERM MANAGEMENT OF ANGER OR FEAR OR PANIC could be ,to MAKE YOURSELF SO BUSY that you have no time to LET THE ANGER OR SADNESS HIT YOU.
SHORT TERM FEAR MANAGEMENT can work the same way.
The more time you spend each day thinking over the fears, the more they occupy your head and GRIP you into submission.
Sometimes,choosing ample distractions can help deal with anger or fear .They help tide over those short phases of intense panic or fear.
By "distractions" I mean, harmless distractions like
a/music,or
b/painting or something creative that takes your mind off fear
c/ hard labor like carpentry or home improvement projects
d/a walk in the park,
e/sleep
f/Seeking to talk to someone that cares for you is a great idea .But then, having said that..when you have a REPEATED PANIC situation, it helps to HELP YOURSELF by talking to yourself, rather than keep bothering other people to help you out.POSITIVE AUTOSUGGESTION HELPS MUCH MORE than anything else.

In the past four months...or rather past "all years of my life"..there have been phases when I have worn out DEAR ONES by repeatedly calling them or seeking out their time to listen to me panic over and over...This method never worked..not for them,not for me.The whole thing was a wasted effort.
Only in phases, where I chose to not call anyone at all, sit there quietly, calm myself down BY MY OWN EFFORT, TALK TO MYSELF..has this fear and panic come under control.

Also, being super busy, SOMETIMES just doesn't allow me to get angry .Helps me tide over some IMPENDING fear attacks.

Revisiting a Four year old ghost-Revisiting a HABIT that was

I call them the "ghost".



People who die, but stay on, linger on.Not that this person died..I just stopped letting them into my world anymore.I completely lost contact and coversation with this person...I shut them out..I  broke out.Finally...too late...the harm was done.



For many many months starting feb 2007 ,almost till may of 2007, all I did was, talk to myself in anger while washing dishes at how much i let this person help me become a dysfunctional shadow of the real me..I ceased being myself with them and funnily, they stopped being themselves while with me.It was bad for both, yet we both continued on and on and on, on the path of mutually destructive and self destructive co existence.All because both of us were slaves of HABIT,scared to move out and walk out and snap out and let it go.We lingered and ruined ourselves and each other in the process..No strength to say NO to each other...Just that OLD HABIT...that old face..whom we longer really like to see even, yet find stangely comforting because it is a familiar face..SLAVES OF FAMILIARITY.
I have seen people spend a lifetime with people they barely really know..except that they live under the same roof, share groceries, fuck mindlessly in the night occasionally,,,and just EXIST...not LIVE..butjust exist..ALL because they are afraid to BREAK OUT OF A HABIT....
Hmmmmm...The interaction lasted a month and few more days...destroyed both us all over again, same patterns,,same outcomes...same same same..same same same same..same..whoa....
I lost credibility in my own eyes...All the four years of pride that i finally broke out of a habit....came down crashing...No pride..Now the pride needs to get rebuilt...again...another four years...seriously..hmmmm.seriously..what was I thinking?