Bday wishes,mistakes,relationship advice,kindness,vicarious pain,emotional baggage--October 2008-LETTERS TO MR.U
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Please also note that here in these blogs I am only posting EXCERPTS from MY OWN EMAILS to someone else WHOSE IDENTITY remains HIDDEN .No actual personally identifiable information about this other person has been revealed by me in these blogs all in an attempt to protect their privacy and mine as well.
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btw.come on...You are doing the exact same mistakes in the exact same manner i once did ..The problem is, the pain that i underwent back then.the pain that i thought is over now...I seem to be vicariously experiencing it all over again, now by watching you do them.the same things that i once did ..IN the exact same sequence...so much so that i can almost predict the next thing that you would do..seriously .
So, please do me a favor and don't waste the next six years of your life like i once did just out of fear of being alone...being alone is better than what you are doing exactly right about now.
Seriously.sometimes it is better to get out there and roll with the punches alone rather than do what you are doing right now.hmmmm.you are asking for a kind of misery that will eventually build up a lot of emotional baggage and the emotional baggage never goes away.
Trust me.I have been through it and i had done the exact same things back then , just like what you are doing right now,I ended up being 27 and seriously questioning the last six years.
I am 30 now and the baggage never goes away.gosh.
You are going to end up 37 and with a lot of emotional baggage and i don't want that for you.I am glad that what i did, I did at the age of 21 and so now < I am 30 and i still have a life ahead of me.. and now when i look back at it,I just could not believe that i stayed with someone who obviously was really so bad for me,highly incompatible. and I think that i probably mistook my own kindness and generosity for this other person as an attachment.. gosh..
the sad part is..the recepient of the kindness , kindness from people like you and I , eventually constantly congratulate themselves saying they have managed to fool you and manipulate you and succeeded in making you like them...and that makes the whole act of generosity and kindness very very futile and undeserved and then at the end of six years you end up really understanding what happenned way back then.
.gosh..I have no idea how to explain it better... I am just rambling away to glory..but i just had to do it... I kinda feel very morally responsible for you in some way...I don't know why.
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MY 2012 POSTNOTE for the blog!!!!
It is cute, how I WISH him for his birthday and CURTLY and swiftly move to another topic and start giving him relationship advice.For most part, actually HE LISTENS to my advice, which is why, I TRY NOT TO MANIPULATE HIM EVER..I give neutral advice...as a friend who wants him to do well.
I DON'T EVER shy from writing LOOOOOOGa emails ,do I? cutely, he is the same way WHEN IT COMES TO WRITING EMAILS TO PEOPLE
in his own words,HIS EMAILS ARE looooooooooog and full of rambling rants JUST LIKE ME..we are so fucking similar...awwwwww...
i want everybody to re-read this part in the excerpt about EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE that I write about.The main reason why i am SHARING my personal letters is for everyone to LEARN SOMETHING out of the content of those emails..yeah?
PLUS, mr.u, CAN COME to the blog whenever he pleases and re-read our old emails....I MEAN, he apparently likes the BLOG FORMAT more than the EMAIL FORMAT..lol...geee!