EMAILING MR.U AFTER TWO YEARS.-About becoming OUR fathers-October , 2010, -LETTERS TO MR.U
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About becoming our fathers,
which btw..is a big fear of mine..that i am becoming more and more like my father each day..which i presume is a big fear of your's too
Not that our fathers are bad people
it is just that i feel like their talents were not appreciated enough ...they ended up marrying spouses that they never got along with to begin with
my biggest fear?
the fact that one day i will marry a man out of sheer fear of being aloneand then he will not satisfy me intellectually or emotionally or spiritually coz he is far too insecure and dumb and manipulative to be so
You dad married your mom and never got along with her
My dad did something similar
sad to watch dads do that
I fear that one day i will do the same mistakes of chosing the wrong person just like my dad
ON some days I am shite scared about everything.
same anxiety attacks like you do..same thought process same mistakes..same everything
which is why, though i swear to myself that i MUST NOT TAKE YOU SERIOUSLY OR PERSONALLY..i end up doing it
Makes me feel like a fool..to take you for a REAL person in my life...yes...i think you are real..but you see..unless we call each other each day and meet each other every weekend..you ARE NOT REALLY REAL..i feel like a fool that i still think of you as a real person in my life though we never meet up or talk up or whatever else, REAL FRIENDS do .
makes me sheepish ..seriously..why am i writing this ramble mail?
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MY 2012 POSTNOTE for the blog!!!
So,yeah,MR.U's parents got divorced not long ago
I personally APPROVE of this decision.
They were so INCOMPATIBLE to begin with.
you see, in those good ole days...people JUST RANDOMLY married..and just LIVED TOGETHER...whatever...even if the marriage is a FAILURE.
i am REALLY HAPPY that they got divorced...if people keep bickering , even when the kids are in their thirties, that says, how incompatible a relationship is or has been all the way...
just like I ALWAYS TWEET, >> DIVORCE is a GOOD THINg..NO REally, IT IS .
IT BRINGS PEACE
I don't blame one single person in a divorce..Both of his parents are VERY SMART PEOPLE in their own way.it is just that, they DON'T MATCH with each other..
MY MOM and dad. they are VERY VERY SMART PEOPLE...BUT again, just like his dad and mom, ARE VERY DIFFERENT PEOPLE.
my parents are not divorced,but on some days, I FEEL SORRY FOR THEM.
THEY BICKER AND IT GIVES ME A HEADACHE.
ON SOMEDAYS,i feel, maybe, my own parents must divorce too, just like, mr.u's parents did.
I did broach this subject with my parents and they CLEARLY TOLD ME THAT THEY NEED EACH OTHER AND ARE NOT INTERESTED IN DIVORCE...well, I TRIED...whatever!LOL